Quit smoking. Drink less. Lose weight. No wonder nobody makes good on their New Year's resolutions - all the popular ones sound like such a drag! These resolutions are still good for you, but a whole lot more fun.

Masturbate more. It eases tension and gets you in touch with your body. It relieves menstrual cramps and releases mood-enhancing hormones. Whether it's a quickie or an entire afternoon affair, complete with candles, satin sheets and you whispering sweet nothings to yourself, we can all use more self-love in our lives.

Try something new. Buy a vibrator, have sex in public, drip hot wax on your partner while dressed like Attila the Hun. I don't care what it is, as long as it's outside your usual sexual limits! Hell, have sex outside the bedroom if that's really freaky for you. Pushing the limits not only busts the routine but it dispels the fear that getting a little kinky once in a while will make your penis fall off or suddenly give you the urge to fuck horses.

Practice your oral sex technique. Unlike the "more masturbation" resolution, this one requires a willing partner. If you can pull that off, make this the year you become the oral sex king or queen. Yeah, yeah, you're already sporting the crown, but trust me, there's always room for improvement. Take a course, read a book, practice on a papaya or a banana. Your partners will thank you.

Take care of your sexual health. Okay, maybe it's not up there with oral sex on the fun scale, but it's a lot easier than sweating it out on the StairMaster. Get HIV and STI tested. Get a pap. Nothing says you care like a clean bill of sexual health.

Single?

Don't enter a new relationship while still in pain from a previous one. Obvious, right? So why do so many of us keep doing this? Because a new relationship is the ultimate painkiller - that is, until the past comes back to haunt you and the fantastic new person you thought "was nothing like that last one" suddenly is exactly like the last one and you find yourself wondering why the hell none of your relationships work until you realize that the one thing they all have in common is you!

Follow your instincts. He didn't call when he said he would... again. She says she's totally over her ex so I'm sure those daily phone calls don't mean anything. It's easy to overlook bad behaviour when you're falling for someone and desperately want things to work out, but save yourself the tearful, angry, "in hindsight, I should have seen the signs" conversations with your friends when the bastard/bitch eventually breaks your heart.

Be more flexible about your type. You've heard it time and time again. "He/she's the last person I would have imagined myself ending up with." Opening yourself up to a wider variety of people not only makes you, well, open to a wider variety of people, you may also find it breaks you out of falling into the same relationship patterns with the same personality types. We're creatures of habit. But resolutions are all about breaking habits.

In a relationship?

Listen. Stop worrying about being right and really listen to what your partner is saying. Imagine there is a bouncing ball (like in the cartoons) over your partner's words. Then follow the bouncing ball, to ensure you're really focusing on what he or she is saying and not simply busy formulating a rebuttal.

Speak up! About your sexual needs, desires and frustrations (in a loving and kind way, of course). Encourage your partner to do the same. Start a weekly sexual revelation ritual: You show me one thing you like or don't like and I'll show you mine.

Do something sexually for your partner he or she is into that maybe you're not. Not only does indulging your partner make them feel special and loved, you may surprise yourself and discover things you never knew you'd get into. And bonus, your partner will be more likely to indulge you in some of your own freaky shit.

Remember quality over quantity. Stop reading all those surveys that make you think everyone else is having way more sex than you are. Who cares if Mr. and Mrs. Joe Blow are doing it seven times a week and twice on Sunday. One, they're probably lying, and two, it's like looking at models in a fashion magazine: You'll never feel adequate. Are you two happy with your frequency? The quality? If you're not, talk about it and figure something out. If you are, I don't care how often you're doing it, and neither should you.

Source: http://www.hour.ca/columns/messybedroom.aspx?iIDArticle=11124